Posts in the "Tutorial" Category

  • Seducing for Cyber: The Push, Test, and Tease

    Seduction is a huge topic; trying to cover it all in one post as it relates to cyber, wouldn’t do any of it justice. So this post is going to introduce you to one seduction approach that can work well for the specific aim of finding out if someone might be interested in cyber (without [...]

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  • Three Threesomes

    You’ve always wanted to have a threesome (shh, it’s my fantasy, just go along with it). And then you discovered Second Life! Now you can finally live out that real-life night at that drunken party where your boyfriend walked in on you about to have a threesome with other people and totally killed the mood! [...]

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  • Intimate Details

    How much knowledge do you require of each other’s real-world bodies, to write cyber which isn’t so completely divorced from reality and expectations, that it ends up losing its effect and flow?
    I can already hear the first volley of replies, “none! It’s fantasy, and even if it wasn’t, your avatar is no doubt so unlike [...]

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  • Posers

    The problems with using pose-balls for cyber, reveal themselves pretty quickly on attempt one. However some people will persist in using them despite their draw backs and limitations, other people will make fun of those who choose to use the pose-balls at all instead of just using written cyber, while others will swear by them [...]

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  • Faking It: Activity and Enjoyment

    The issue of whether to “fake it” – any part of it – during cyber, is not as straight-forward as you may think. Your gut instinct may be to say “it’s all faking anyway cause you’re not really doing it” so there is no limit to what you should fake. I’m going to argue against [...]

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  • Focus on the task at hand…

    Lesson Five is about focusing on the task at hand, and is part of the broader category of cyber etiquette. The best way to approach this issue is by going through a list of the likely (and often humourous and embarrassing) outcomes if you try to multitask instead of paying all your attention to the [...]

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  • Taking Turns to Share the Load…

    Lesson Four is about sharing the work-load when you’re cybering; not leaving it entirely up to one participant to type while you, um, do your nails. Or whatever other chore is at hand. There are a few basic rules you should try to follow here, and I will explain the reasons for each one as [...]

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  • The Naming Game, aka Why your one-eyed-trouser-snake should never invade beaver territory

    Lesson Three: What not to name your and your partner’s body parts during cyber, and why. There’s quite a few no-no categories here so let’s break them down and tackle each one at a time.
    Animal metaphors: You may be used to referring to your spitting trouser snake, her beaver, or her pussy (which I’ll cover [...]

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  • To /me or not to /me…

    Time for lesson number two: To /me or not to /me during cyber. Typing “/me” at the start of a chat line in Second Life makes the colon disappear so you can make the line read “Legendary Charisma bakes a muffin” instead of “Legendary Charisma: bakes a muffin”. Such a small difference you say, why [...]

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  • Tense Cybering

    I am going to give you something that you might not realise you need: A little bit of layman’s (or laylady’s) advice and insight on cybering. And if you don’t cyber or think you’re already God’s gift, hopefully you’ll still get a little giggle or two from them.
    These posts were originally published on another blog, [...]

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