Seduction is a huge topic; trying to cover it all in one post as it relates to cyber, wouldn’t do any of it justice. So this post is going to introduce you to one seduction approach that can work well for the specific aim of finding out if someone might be interested in cyber (without necessarily embarrassing yourself or them), and enticing them to actually follow through with you. I call it “The Push, Test, and Tease”.

I’ll begin by clarifying who this technique will suit best: If you have just met someone who you are interested in, or have known someone for a while, and either way would like to see if they might be interested in cyber without out-right asking “hey wanna have text sex with me?”, then you might find this useful. To the same end, it can allow you to test their responsiveness to the idea of cyber without you coming off like a slut / sleaze who doesn’t care who they score as long as they score, and allowing you to avoid potential embarrassment. (If you don’t care about such things, then just using the famous noob approach of “wanna fuck?” to every random stranger might be more up your alley, though less successful and less fun.)

Once you’ve decided you’re interested in them you’ll need to find a way to either get them alone on a sim (or at least 20m away from the closest avatars), or drag them into IM. This is not hard to achieve, and there are a lot of ways to get there. Let’s assume at this point that you have figured out how to get them into either form of private chat (preferably IM), so we can move onto the method.

The “Push, Test, and Tease” is best done from already being on some pose balls – dance balls are perfect (and is the example I’ll use through-out), but cuddling or similar poses will work too.

During the general chit-chat you can start to “push”. This is where you very gently try to steer the conversation towards action. For example “George: Wow, you have twenty kids huh, that must be exhausting!” “Martha: Yeah, the womb is pretty worn out I must say” “George gently spins you as we dance” “George: You’re obviously an amazing mum”. At this point you’re just slipping it in there and watching carefully for the reaction. You’re not necessarily testing her reaction yet though – that comes soon – rather you’re just warming her up to the idea and alerting her to your interest in heading in that direction / that you readily and happily use action described in this manner.

After a few spins and smiles, and if she (or he, whichever) hasn’t shown alarm at the proceedings so far (and there should be no reason for them to), it’s time to consider the “test”. This is where you are trying to see if they will be responsive to both yourself and the idea of cyber. Another example to show what I mean: “Martha: So the third husband was a complete wanker, like really, who leaves you with 12 kids from five other men?” “George gently takes your beautiful face in his hands, momentarily interrupting the dance to study your stunning features. I smile at you and tell you I’d never leave a woman as amazing as you”. (Let me know when you finish puking and we’ll continue.)

At this point Martha could choose to completely ignore the invitation to respond (“Martha: Aww thanks, so anyway, husband four was much better than husband three”), or she might take up the invitation (“Martha smiles back and rests her face into your warm safe hands”). Either way you’re doing fine – if she ignores you you can consider backing off or going gently still through push and test, push and test, trying to coax her into the activity. If she responds you can consider the “Tease”.

The tease stage will boost your confidence and get rid of lingering doubts about where this might be going. Things can get a lot heavier by this stage and rather quickly move into cyber, so set your pace wisely if you’re still concerned about scaring them off. The tease is trying to get them to take a more active role, and show a willingness to go that step further. Another example to help us along: “George’s hand lingers on your hip as we sway together. I can feel your soft flesh hot underneath the fabric of your dress, my fingers tracing longing questions across it, as my breath gently travels the smooth path of your neck”, or “George pushes his body closer to yours on each turn of the dance, needing to be as close to you as possible”. Whatever way you word it there has to be something there for her to work with. So Martha could easily respond with “Martha answers your longing with her own, pushing back into you, the warmth of our bodies building against each other”.

The tease can be very subtle or quite intense, the aim is just to get them to show that you’re not in this alone and haven’t misread their signals up to that point (or them yours). It still allows you room to get out of the situation before it’s too embarrassing or destroys a friendship (which might only turn out to be a friendship after all), in the way that “George sticks his schlong up your petal parts” won’t.

Each step – but especially the tease – is also a chance for you to show what you can do: Use descriptive and attentive language, make them want to know what else you could do with those keys at your fingers.

Each step of the push, test, and tease can be repeated as required to stay within both your comfort zones. But as a general rule you do want to move up in that order: The push allows you to signal your interest in using action; the test allows you to see if they are responsive at all; and the tease tries to draw them into it – boosting your confidence whilst also confirming both of your intents.

I suppose that’s lesson ten then: There are many ways to seduce people, what I have introduced you to here is just one method specifically aimed at trying to get someone involved in cyber. I haven’t given you the “before steps” (getting them to say hello and dance in the first place) and I haven’t given you the “after steps” (seducing them onto special balls or shifting from the dance talk to the unambiguous sex talk). I’ll write future posts talking more about how to do both if there is much interest in them (and quite possibly if there isn’t too :p). Either way, I hope this small snippet of cyber seduction advice gives you something to work with and, um, “up your hit rate”. Happy cybering!